I finally put new sheet music on my Kerby Music website: Love is the Key. It’s a solo that I wrote in 2014 and performed for a Stake Musical Fireside with the same name. Though the song meant a lot to me then, I had no idea how much it would help me get through the next very difficult years of separation and divorce. I think it was evidence that God knew what I needed – to stay focused on keeping love in my heart, despite the difficult circumstances that were ahead. I’ve learned a lot and I’m so grateful for the gift of love.
Last Sunday, I attended a fireside with speaker Kevin Clayson. He talked about his divorce and his path that led to the wonderful marriage he is enjoying now. His talk was inspiring to me. He said that after his divorce he could see down two very different roads. One was paved with anger, frustration and even revenge, while the other was a path of forgiveness, warmth and unconditional love. He took the path of forgiveness and love and ultimately it led him to the life he is enjoying now. He is now an inspired motivational speaker and author and just wrote a book called Flip the Gratitude Switch. I can hardly wait to read it. He talked about how love helped him to become the kind of person that attracted the women of his dreams into his life that he is now married to.
I know that love is that powerful. Love has been the key to helping me feel peace in the midst of trial and adversity. Throughout my whole marriage, I learned how to find God, love others, and be grateful. It was always those things that helped me to be happy in whatever circumstances I was in. Without all the things I’ve learned, I don’t know how I would have gotten through the difficulties of divorce, court and everything else I’ve been through these last couple of years. I’ve been so grateful for the path I chose to love unconditionally. It’s been the key to my happiness.
Before I got divorced, I had wanted to share my songs and experiences that have helped me to learn how to love unconditionally. It wasn’t an easy road but it was invaluable in helping me to have hope, stay positive and be able to feel peace no matter what situation I was in. Before I got divorced, I was learning about differences in perception and how easy it was to misjudge people and misunderstand them. I was learning how to love in a deeper way than I ever had before. I realized that if people could understand the things I was learning, it had the potential to save marriages, help with difficult relationships and help people be happier generally understanding each other better. After I got divorced, I worried that no one would want to hear from me. Why would anyone want to learn how to save their relationships, when I couldn’t even save my own marriage?
It was the adversary that was keeping me in that thinking pattern. Of course he wouldn’t want me to share the things I had learned. He wants us to go down the path of anger, resentment and contempt. My message is about love and choosing to love no matter how difficult the circumstance. I would never have learned the concepts that have changed my life except for going through the experiences I did and choosing to love unconditionally. I want others to benefit from what I’ve learned and to have more successful experiences than my own. I know it’s a lot easier to love people when you understand where they are coming from. The concepts I’ve learned can help with that, and it’s exciting to think what could happen when some of those barriers come down and we stop having to protect ourselves all the time.
I feel happy not having any of those barriers. Despite my divorce, I know that God still loves me and has a plan for me. He is helping me to share this message. I’ve had amazing miracles happen and I have had the opportunity to attend workshops, receive mentoring and opportunities to learn from amazing people like Tammy Anderson Ward, Gerald Rogers, Kirk Duncan and others. I’ve learned how to help others and how to be a good mentor and speaker. I’m excited to share the things I’ve learned. I no longer feel afraid and I’m excited to share my message with others.
My first introductory class is called “Tuning into Happiness”. It will introduce the main concepts that have helped me to love unconditionally. I’ll follow that with a class on relationships and how to understand opposite perceptions. I’m really excited about that one. It will help explain the differences in perception and unlock some secrets into understanding those hard-to-understand people in your life. You might be surprised to find that things you thought were being said to be rude, were actually meant to be kind and respectful. Understanding these differences and intentions, when coupled with the desire to love can change your life forever. It certainly has for me. I genuinely love people. I hope to inspire others to feel the same joy, peace and happiness that I’ve felt despite the difficult circumstances that have come.
I’m also excited to share my music again. Music is still a big part of my mission and purpose in life. It’s helped me to become the person God wants me to be. I want to share the songs that have helped me so that they can help others along the way. I’m also planning to do personal mentoring sessions with others and write personal songs for the clients I work with. How would you like to have a personal song written just for you to help get you through whatever trial you’re dealing with at the time? I’m excited to write those songs. It will be fun to see where life takes me. I hope you’ll follow me on the journey and take courage to follow your own promptings and impressions. Choosing to love may not always be the easiest road, but it’s SO worth it in the end! It’s the door to true happiness and Love is the key!
